As someone who works with Asians and non-Asians helping them cultivate the social skills and messaging necessary to succeed in NYC private school admissions, I was fascinated by Wesley Yang's exceptional article, Paper Tigers / Asian Like Me. New York Magazine describes the essay:
Amy Chua’s triumphalist screed about intense Asian-style parenting triggered hysteria among other parents scared that their children were falling behind. But the Tiger Child generation has the opposite fear: that their upbringing has bled them of the assertiveness and social skills necessary to succeed as American adults.
In the article, Yang describes what he believes are the social skills usually necessary to succeed in the American workplace and in romantic life. As a student of social skills as well as a coach who teaches them within the private school admissions context, I am fascinated by the parallels between my work and Yang's findings.
Yang's essay references Hunter College High School and Stuyvesant, two elite selective NYC public schools that are majority Asian. As a Hunter graduate and a frequent visitor to Stuy, I believe Yang accurately captures the white/Asian dynamic. After reading Yang's essay, you may find yourself reexamining how you perceive other people and how other people perceive you.